How Isolation and Loneliness Hurt Anxiety


This is a follow on article from The Perils of Social Isolation in which I explored the pitfalls of isolation and loneliness and just what they were. This article offers solutions on how to combat those pitfalls to avoid the subsequent anxiety brought on by isolation or whichever comes first. It’s a real conundrum, isn’t it? Which comes first the chicken or the egg !!!!

I just need some time alone.” This is one of the most common phrases that those with anxiety say when they experience severe anxiety or stress. It’s also one of the most incorrect statements about how to deal with anxiety.Isolation, loneliness, and simply not conversing with others can have a profoundly negative effect on anxiety, in a way that few people even realise.

This article will explore the problems with being alone and why ensuring some type of social atmosphere is important for controlling anxiety.

How Severe is Your Anxiety?

For those feeling alone, or for those who’s anxiety keeps them alone, it is always a good idea to learn more about your anxiety. Isolation and Loneliness are both a

Cause and a Symptom

Feeling lonely and isolating yourself from the world is both a cause and a symptom of anxiety.

Some people experience anxiety because they feel incredibly isolated. Others feel they need to be alone to reduce their anxiety.Both of these are due to faulty thinking cause by anxiety. Actual, university level scientific studies have found that human beings are intensely social creatures, and that if they don’t feel socially supported they become more at risk for not only anxiety/stress, but also physical health problems as well.So it’s no surprise that those that feel that they’re not socially supported – whether they have no friends, or they have many friends but don’t feel supported by those friends – can feel anxious. That type of isolation goes against human biology and evolution.For many with anxiety, this represents somewhat of a Catch-22.

Most people do not want to feel as though they aren’t supported by others, but anxiety also makes it harder to meet others, go out, and make friendships. That’s one of the reasons that anxiety is such a challenge. Imagine living with social phobia and know that social support is needed to cure social phobia? It’s no wonder that so many people that feel lonely and isolated develop shyness and anxiety.As a Symptom, But the problem doesn’t end there.

Many people with anxiety also choose to be more isolated. That’s because anxiety causes two issues that end up leading to isolation: The belief that being alone will help you reduce your stress. This is an incredibly common belief, and one that all evidence shows is completely wrong.The lack of enjoyment they get going out and spending time with others as a result of their anxiety. Not to mention the negative thinking that comes from having anxiety about the idea of social situations.

There’s a reason that many people with anxiety are more prone to embarrassment and shyness – anxiety causes not just fear, but also negative and “black and white” thinking. Even the belief that being alone is helpful is the result of anxiety and stress.The reality though is that being alone is the exact opposite of what you need to do to overcome anxiety. That’s because when you have anxiety, your thought processes are changed and you become far more internalised (inside of your own head). Anxiety causes negative thoughts, and anxiety puts you inside of your own head and experiencing those negative thoughts.Curing anxiety requires distractions. It requires you to stop overthinking and live life. It’s something that is much, much harder to do when you’re alone with your own thoughts, because as much as it may seem like you can overcome your anxiety by yourself – and sometimes you can – the truth is that in general, when you’re alone and isolated, you tend to have more negative thoughts for longer.

Distractions and social atmospheres are far better for getting over stress and anxiety faster, no matter how you feel and what you think. Studies have consistently shown this.

Both the Cause and Symptom

So we know that isolation and loneliness cause and lead to more anxiety. We also know that anxiety makes it harder to socialise and become close to others. Obviously, that creates a bit of a conundrum.It is important to note though that all anxiety – including social anxiety and panic disorder – is incredibly treatable. These conditions have been proven to be easy to fight and reduce if you commit to the right treatment. The following are some of the tips necessary for improving your ability to find social support and improving your anxiety:

Start Exercising

Exercise may not seem social, and often it isn’t. But there are aspects of exercising – especially jogging and spending time in a gym – that are highly beneficial. First, exercise is proven to reduce anxiety, because it improves the flow and production of some of the neurotransmitters that create anxiety in the first place. Second, exercise is proven to improve confidence, which is important for overcoming the isolation. And third, exercise involves being around other people, even if you don’t talk to them, and that’s important in its own right. If you do nothing else, start exercising today.

Closer to Those You Know

Social support doesn’t need to come from anywhere. If you have people in your life that are a positive impact (generally people that are nice and positive people), then spend more time with them and grow closer to them. As long as you’re feeling supported, it doesn’t matter if you have 1 friend or 500. Be close to someone and spend time with someone and you’ll see the results.

Socialise Elsewhere

Perhaps your social phobia or shyness make it harder for you to interact. That’s okay. See if there are others like you that you can meet and try to get over your social issues together. There are sometimes social phobia support groups, and Meet-Ups that you can find both online and offline (or organise yourself) that can help. Being around others that are also suffering is still a way to socialise, and perhaps you can learn coping strategies together.

Stay Busy/Be Alone Less On Purpose

You should also make sure that you’re trying to stay as active and busy as you can, and never allowing yourself to succumb to that feeling of being alone on purpose. When you are alone, give yourself things to do, including puzzles, books, funny shows on TV (no dramas or anxiety producing horror stories, of course), and whatever else you can find to lessen your anxiety further. Staying busy is a useful way to keep your mind off of your anxieties.You should also start taking steps to reduce your anxiety overall, so that if you are struggling to meet others or you’re finding that you feel like you want to be alone and isolated a lot, you no longer have those fears.